• Gustephan@lemmy.world
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    5 days ago

    Minor disagreement. I’m a straight dude who celebrates gay pride, and that usually comes off as a green flag to women considering sleeping with me

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        1 day ago

        Sure, if you’re a TERF and believe that validating trans people is violence against women. Giving you the benefit of the doubt that you probably don’t recognize that as a TERF talking point, I’d advise you to be more careful about where you source your facts lest you end up accidentally spewing hate. If you are a TERF, I’d advise you that trans rights are human rights and you should stop being a bigot.

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          24 hours ago

          Actually being progressive to get women’s attention and tell them about how lucky they are that he’s not like these other closed minded men can certainly be used to control a woman. I highly recommend reading “Why does he do that? Inside the mind of angry and controlling men” by Lundy Bancroft.

          I had to admit that I had been controlling of my wife for years and didn’t even realize I was doing it. Sometimes I try to cling to my old ideas and dismiss this stuff but I really can’t.

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            24 hours ago

            There’s a huge difference between being progressive to attract women and being progressive and noticing that some women find that attractive. I’m glad you were able to work out/are working on your demons. I don’t appreciate being accused of the same based on a comment that only relates to your situation if you make significant assumptions.