This is a throw away account, in case I end up working with someone that reads this post.

I’ve been lurking on this community with my main account for a few months now. I have ideas on what I’d like to self-host but between my ADHD, perfectionism, and anxiety, I’m frozen.

I need help selecting and implementing an initial set up. I’m not an IT professional but I’m a reasonably advanced user, so I’m confident I can do the setup work and ongoing management myself. I just need someone to:

  1. Discuss the big picture of what’s involved in self-hosting and help fill in gaps in my understanding;
  2. Help me decide on the best initial setup for my needs and skill level;
  3. Hold my hand during the setup phase and make sure I’m not doing anything stupid;
  4. Ideally be available long term for the occassional question.

I’m willing to pay a fair hourly rate for this assistance. If someone in this community is interested, please dm me. You might want to use a throw away for that too, assuming this work can’t be done anonymously.

Alternatively, any suggestions for good websites to find a consultant, and what skills I should be looking for, would also be greatly appreciated.

Thank you for reading. Wishing you all the best for 2026.

Edit: I appreciate all the offers for free help on this forum.

I perhaps didn’t explain well enough that what I really need is a knowledgeable coach, who can get me moving and provide guidance. I bought the Official Pi-hole Raspberry Pi 4 Kit a few months ago and it’s still sitting on my desk gathering dust. Embarrassing but true.

  • Tiritibambix@lemmy.mlEnglish
    10·
    4 hours ago

    I see myself in your profile. It took me ages to take the leap.

    I first tried seeking help in r/selfhosted and got discouraged by the elitist community.

    I just ate dozens of hours of YouTube content, bought a Raspberry Pi 4, and failed numerous times.

    The fact is, I was stuck in the anomalous state of knowledge.

    So just go ahead, hit and miss, but as an ADHD, document everything. EVERYTHING. Every step you take, every thing you learn.

    The community here is a lot friendlier than Reddit’s, so don’t be afraid of asking, as long as it’s well formulated.

    And one thing I didn’t have when I took my first steps is AI. It was made for this: getting out of the anomalous state of knowledge. It will help you define what’s missing so you can ask the proper questions.

    Have fun learning!