Cris

Thanks for the additional context!

Fuck yeah!

I appreciate you helping people find instances that are a good fit for them, and your consideration of multiple different possible preferences regarding instances :)

Those are some sweet fuckin pants, I want some

I don’t presently have one, and when I do it’ll probably be like waiter at waffle-house or something 😅

Why do you ask?

Are you positive that’s entirely correct? There are definitely disorders who’s definitions are shaped by their impact on others, like Munchausen’s by proxy, but I’m not a psychologist or psychiatrist. I could see it being described as a form of impairment to an important area of life to not being able to form healthy non-destructive relationships, and I think impairment is one of the criteria by which a disorder can be defined

I could also just be wrong though, and it’s a fair point regardless. Perhaps “defined by” wasn’t quite the right way to word things

Edit: upon rereading I didn’t actually say it was “defined by”, but the wording is still imperfect. I can only be but so anal about technicalities though; communicating my point is more important

Thank you very much. As someone with a lot of challenges with mental illness myself, it’s something I think about a lot.

I think the important thing is really just that mental illness doesn’t shield you from accountability for how you impact other people, and for a personality disorder that primarily manifests in traits that harm people, that’s a hard thing to reconcile with that person’s merits. Doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t, just that because you are still responsible for potentially hurting people, and have a disorder that makes you very likely to do so, those things will be very hard for people to square.

Another example is paraphilias. Paraphilias can include things like pedophilia, which manifests in a desire to do something that would subject someone to profound amounts of trauma, the likes of which most of us couldn’t even begin to appreciate. Can someone with such a paraphilia be a good person who is kind, and does not harm people in that way? Yes. Can that person be largely a good person in most contexts, but cause people enormous harm as a result of their paraphilia? Also yes.

In some ways we are all people with conditions that affect who we would be otherwise, and in other ways we are all just people, and conditions are used descriptively to communicate the traits that we have.

At the end of the day, the thing that matters is how you treat people. If you cause people harm, it might be more understandable given the context of a personality disorder, but it doesn’t absolve you of any responsibility. And if you don’t, then you haven’t done anything wrong. And I mean that for each moment in time, each interaction. Humans are messy and complicated, and generally ideas like “good person”, “bad person”, are reductive.

I’m sorry you feel trapped or defined by your diagnosis. That can be a painful place to be. I have a close friend with borderline personality disorder who has at times felt similarly. Only thing that matters is whether you’re an asshole. Only thing that ever has mattered, only thing that ever will.

Edit: just want to be very clear- the fact that it will be hard for people to engage with you purely based on your behaviour in a given interaction is not something you deserve. Its the actions and how they affect people that count, even if I can empathize with why it’d be hard for people

I have a severe circadian rhythm disorder (combined with a handful of complicating mental health conditions) and unfortunately can’t be awake during the day 😅

if I manage to move my schedule it just drifts back to being extremely late, and when I’ve had jobs I’ve progressively found it harder and harder to be awake when work starts, or when I was in highschool, struggled more and more to get up for school until I was just missing school a lot of the time (though that was also in part because I was going through the first real mental health episode I’ve experienced and didn’t know what to do about it or how to cope)

The not working is mostly due to social anxiety and mental health hurdles with applying and interviewing, but I do think that’s changing. I’ve been kinda stuck for a while though.

A friend group of mine who all rented a house together used to do movie nights and I really enjoyed it :) we all took turns picking stuff and I haven’t seen almost any movies so I had a great time. Unfortunately they don’t live together anymore and some moved away. That friend group is a lot more split up a now, so I was thinking about stating a new one :)

Edit: lmao, who downvoted me for explaining my medical condition, what a dick

Yeah, I am. Unfortunately both in terms of regular social contact and in terms of romance.

Social contact because I’m not awake during the day, which makes it really hard to get together with people, or get out of the house (or see the sun). And romantically just cause I’m not healthy enough for it and so not pursuing a relationship, even though I miss it.

I go to a regular social event once a week on Mondays and try to keep up with my friends. I’m still trying to figure out what I might want to change. Going to more social stuff, even though I find it a bit overwhelming? Getting a job would certainly help. Once I have a job, maybe I could get a dog? It’d be nice to get to interact with another living creature in my physical vacinity at least once a day.

I’ve kinda thought about trying to do small group get-togethers with my friends. I used to really enjoy doing a regular movie night. Or perhaps try to do something for my birthday. I’ve even thought about trying to start a group of some kind for folks awake at night since it can make socializing and getting out pretty hard

That might be an issue with how your client is rendering it. In app via Thunder I’m not having that problem, but it’s good for people to know it says 62%!

That looks awesome! I’m deeply nostalgic for that period of time, material design was the big thing when I was first getting into UI design and I was absolutely in love with it

Klwp and Kwgt are still a blast, that’s what almost all of my stuff is made out of, but iOS has its pros as well :) from what I hear things are progressively getting a little more customizable, if still pretty locked down

At some point I’d like to get a little better at animations so I can make my setup feel a little more alive, but for the time being it’s mostly just static elements

Lol, I’m somewhat similar. I’m a big ui/ux nerd but don’t have professional or academic experience other than some pro-bono work in high-school. But I love tinkering with my phone’s homesceen and other similar little projects. I’m hoping to make a neocites page soon!

This is my previous phone’s homescreen I posted a while back:

https://mastodon.online/@CrisColor/111440259435482295

I’ve gotten a new phone since then and am still getting it updated to fit properly on a new screen, so right now it looks a little jank 😅 but it’s always interesting to hear how other people feel differently about aesthetics than yourself!

Interesting, thanks for sharing your perspective with me! ☺️

I’m curious how you feel about the GNOME application icons, they sound like they might be up your alley

Right now I generally have a preference for either weird stylized themed stuff I make myself, or very flat stuff like what android currently does for app icons, but I can certainly see the appeal of other stuff :)

I really like the application icons used in Gnome but I really like the consistent line weights and geometry of material symbolic icons so I’m still using a material icon pack on gnome

Edit: Here’s a picture I grabbed of icons done in the adwaita style Gnome uses in case you don’t use linux and aren’t familiar with them. Its not a full sampling, but you get the idea :)

Personally I don’t, I kinda hate old skeuomorphism 😅

Neo skeuomorphism has some neat novelty though.

Edit: this is just my personal aesthetic preference, I don’t begrudge anyone their love of skeuomorphism, or nostalgia for it.

I’d assume a lot of people just don’t participate as much as they used to, even if they still use Reddit, and other people probably just gave it up or use other traditional social media instead 🤷‍♂️

Huh, thanks for the advice!

I have very poor working memory so thinking about words, and trying to remember letters, and thinking about how long they are, all at once, kinda fries my brain pretty quickly 😅 but I have a much easier time with the lateral thinking and word reasoning of connections

I’ll keep your advice in mind if I give the wordle clones a shot, or am playing sometime in the future post-strike!

Hope you have a good one 😊

Lol, I definitely found that rough at first, but it’s at least the kind of word puzzle I’m good at, I suck ASS at wordle 😅

Thank you!