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This sounds more like you not really being aware of your qualities, and/or you looking at females who would not be a match for you (meaning neither of you would be satisfied if you tried). While there do exist qualities which make people truely unattractive (disorders such as uncontrolled rage for example), you don’t say that.
It’s true that mating choice in humans is foremost the female’s choice, yet you might be surprised by what they see as qualities to appreciate. If you are an introvert, despair not, because 30-ish percent of all people could be classified as such, and that specifically could be seen as an appreciable quality by a woman who also sees herself as such …

You are only invisible if you literally hide away. – You do not give us much information as to why you think this way, or about your cultural background. You might be truely physically impaired or clinically depressive, or part of a culture where men and women are mostly kept separated, and that would actually make it more difficult but not impossible at all to find a match. Not having such information, i will refrain myself from just telling you to “go out of your hole more, man” and such. –

May we perhaps get a hint at your age? Because answers could get more helpful if we knew. (Don’t ever think you are too old)

Yet, in whatever way you are set up, think of it like this: there are likely, literally, millions of people in your area and half of them are women, and a good percentage of those are in your age range (the older you get the wider this range gets). You can be certain that there is a sizeable number of women who have the same kind of thoghts and feelings as you do right now, and perhaps more important even, Your emotional and mental state can and will change.
In other words, you are certainly not unworthy in the eyes of the one you would not have expected to find you attractive. Of course, you need to actually show up in places where you likely meet people who share your interests (iow. “find you attractive”) …

My own experience: considered myself an “introvert” (until more recently i learned it’s likely “more than just that”). Had great difficulties finding the right approach toward women in general, until i was 25 … when it happened for the first time that a woman approached me, in a very assuring way (like, “want to come home with me, we make food and then I’d like to show you around my bedroom”). I took the chance and although i was “easy prey” for her it was the right thing to do because she was treating my inexperience in a sensitive way. Nevertheless, she was not a good match interest-wise, so that lasted only a couple of monts (and broke in anger).
A year later, a similar thing happened again … at a seminar after-party, a student colleague who i wouldn’t have thought of just so asked if she could stay the night with me. She didn’t appear the most attractive to me but neither did i seem to be particularly attractive to others. Somehow i was wrong. That time it turned out quickly that it was me who was the more experienced one. … And that woman was an “introvert” match (whom i now think of as being “more than just introvert”, too) – we’ve been a couple for seven years. …
After that, both our paths in life changed considerably so we broke up in mutual agreement that we both needed to experience new things in life (i found a more spiritual-leaning path and learned what “love” is really about; she went with another man and discovered that she wanted to have children after all). …

The relevant part here is that despite me thinking of myself not being particularly attractive, it kept happening that women just approached me, asking quite explicitly. – And it almost always happened when i had gone into the company of like-minded people, but without the specific intent to seek out a woman. I can only remember one time when i did make an explicit move myself (even at that occasion i knew that i wouldn’t get turned down because of the way she went all so lovely excited both times we had met before).
All in all, i wasn’t together with very many and now that i’m older i still miss finding my true partner, but i can say that any of the experiences i got the chance to have, had its distinct flavour of enjoyability (well, perhaps minus the one time she later admitted she had abused me). Many of the women i love, i did never even get close to. A couple of times it was me who had to leave them behind because our paths just couldn’t go together. A number of times it was sexual enjoyment for a number of days.

If you are asking, how does it feel … well that’s asking for poetry. Every experience is different though, and so will be yours (yes i say it will). It can be very satisfying, very lacking, questionable, exciting, soothing, mind-melting, enchanting, hurting, teaching. Pick yours. :-)

Why would you care to read and respond in an ask-random-lemmy-users-for-opinions@major-instance if you wouldn’t be interested in random lemmy users’ opinions?

You seem to show some of your self-image here (a concept that replaces the misleading “ego”). The short description you give seems to tell that this is attached to “the quantity of your doing”. Hence the idea of “living = doing more = becoming more” vs. “dying = doing less = becoming less”.

While there is nothing wrong with that in principle (heaps of books exist on the different philosophical approaches on this wider topic and yours is quite popular among certain cultures), we could without changing much arrive at a different but perhaps more satisfying conclusion.
The change is from equating “living” to the experience of exercising our body and mind, to “living” being the experience of purely inhabiting and owning that body and mind. – That would probably be what people mean when they seemingly tell you to paradoxically “live a little” (implying to mean “live a little more”) by “doing less”. Which, when we really concentrate on enjoying the pure experience will not actually mean that we are just idling but it would mean we would be less occupied with exercising and more occupied with observing the living (or observing the feeling of it). Whether we actually do physical/mental exercising or not does not really matter. It’s just more easy for many people to do the observing while they are “idling” or “meditating” in a still way, but any way that fits a specific person is good. We might be surprised by how active we are when doing that.

That way we could arrive at the insight that “doing less” does not equal “becoming less” (perhaps even the contrary), neither that “dying” equals “becoming less”. :-)

edit … If we were to see “living” and “dying” purely as functions of an organism regardless of the existence of a self-image, then “living” would mean a sustained state of dynamic equilibrium whereas “dying” would be a transitory state toward non-equilibrium (that is decaying). Interestingly, decaying should then be a transitory state from being one dead organism into sustaining the equilibrium of living in other organisms (i.e. becoming the other); while there would be no transitory state toward becoming living (there’s just a transition from being a single cell to being an organism).

Societies would probably degenerate to absolute chaos. Relevant book exists: The Children of Men
film: Children of Men, 2006 (trigger alert: realistic brutality!)

Exactly, thanks.
I could also have said something about misguided patriarchic structures but if they react like that just on female promiscuity, such an effort would be wasted.
(Yes i mean to say that monogamy is an invention of male dominance cultures.)

@deur@feddit.nl

To the contrary, it could fuck up several people’s lives if someone were to interfere with their peace. It’s just part of human nature that males can not be that certain about their offspring.

I didn’t. My answer is as much guessing as the other funny ones. It’s just the lamest one as in: if no other information is given then the question must be about the (true) semantic relation of the words themselves … which there isn’t because the accusation of treason is arbitrary. 😅

Nothing much, really. Usually, those who have been accused of being traitors have in fact been loyal … just to something that was not in favour at the time.

It’s called hypodipsia or adipsia. The bad thing for me is that dehydration causes the brain to get forgetful of things. So i notice that i’m dehydrated and i remind myself that i should drink … only to have forgotten about it after 10 seconds.

What helps me is to always have a water bottle at hand, and preferably have it so that i’m often reminded of its presence. Frequently have it in the field of vision, or strap it to the belt. Then train the habit that whenever i get aware of the bottle i immediately take some.
If you dislike the taste of pure water then try adding some flavour to it. Mineral supplement fizzle tabs, lemon, mint leaves … are you also “hungry for salt”? As someone mentioned, you might be low on essential ions as well.

When you drink beer, eat something salty to it (beer may cause sodium to get exchanged by potassium), and drink at least the same amount of water as you had beer. (hint for anyone for minimising hangovers)

Eyesight. Because the glory.

WP as it is is of course not useless. But don’t confuse it with a real library. Then, imagine in the apocalyptical worst case, having archived only that summary of humankind’s knowledge. There’s a vast amount of detail that WP is just not the right place for.

The problem with such approaches will be human curiosity. Imagine today’s scientists find such a site from the late paleolithic which has messages like “This site is cursed; we buried here what causes death and pestilence to us; go no further or it will do the same to you!” – You bet they will want to see what is inside the “buried temple of death”.

Wikipedia is basically useless without the sources, though. It’s just a TL;DR summary of things.

Right about spelling. For a non-native, it becomes somewhat difficult when it is about the “right” pronunciation of the written language. There’s a lot of French influence for example. Now they have a lot of French words, some feel horribly mispronounced and some aren’t. And then there’s a lot of dialects so that mixing pronunciations can hardly be avoided.

Confused here. Lasagna looks like several horizontal lines with some filling in between and cheese on top. Like none of the letters that i know. Then again, it’s italian, so what to do … espanicise it?
lasaña – there you go, that will take care of the cheese, at least.

Ironicly, “conshus” one such candidate for me.

English really lacks some throat-fricative analogue to the Greek chi (χʼ). Shoud be yaχt in the graχt. imo.

kɛɪ 🤷

Good Bod! Now see what thou doeth.

Oh man the various English’ pronunciashuns …
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=SfhKldRKmo8