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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • Dear Mx Dreeshen,

    In regards to your last letter, I believe I wholeheartedly understand your concerns.

    Your letter helped open my eyes to the error in our plans for the city and thus we shall no longer proceed to install our planned dedicated bicycle lanes.

    You are correct that we must deal with the increasing demand for access to our great city.

    Therefore we shall be announcing vast improvements to our road structure in the form of increased public transport services, dedicated bus-only routes, additional pedestrianised streets in major shopping areas, and even a couple of tram routes, on top of the bicycle lanes laid out in our original plan - all thanks to your wonderful letter!

    Get wrecked you spineless automotive shill.

    With love,

    Jyoti Gondek


  • I hate I have a birthday in the same millennium. All these <26 year olds with their youth, and a 2 at the start of their birth year!

    They’ll never know the glory of the 90s!

    They’ll never know what it was like to grow up in a pre-digital world!

    They’ll never know what it was like in an airport before 9/11!

    I never knew what it was like in an airport before 9/11 because I only flew for the first time last week but my point still stands!

    And as for the rest of you millennials! Remember Dexter? This is him now! Feel old yet?








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    2 months ago

    Do these tests take place with people watching? If not, could you not bullshit by saying “Yeah I’ll do it”, then lock the parents out from seeing anything before having a chat with the girl about how bullshit it is, then bullshit even more by simply telling the parents “yep, totally a virgin, absolutely a virgin”?

    That said, now I read that out loud I realise that’s probably way too risky and could cost you your license.



  • Oh she does it constantly with everyone 😂 she is aware, and is striving to do it less, but yeah, it’s all confidence.

    She loves baking, for example, and is really good at it, but will apologise profusely for how bad they are before anyone has even tasted them. Perfectionism is absolutely a part of it, and I think that’s been imposed on her by her mum who is also a perfectionist and expects everyone else to be a perfectionist.

    But yeah, were figuring it out 😊



  • We’ve both been working on ourselves emotionally for a long time, so we spend a lot of time and energy trying to explore why we feel certain ways about different things, and then working together to try and help each other get to where we want to be.

    I obviously have behaviours which I don’t like about myself which I’m working on, and she also has behaviours which she’s trying to work on. This is one of those areas where we’re trying to figure out together “how much apologising is too much?” as a general curiosity, rather than it being an actual problem.

    Neither of us feel like we apologise enough, but I don’t get called out on how much I apologise, but she does. A lot of our friends and family often tell her she doesn’t need to apologise, or that she apologises too much! 😂

    I understand why I don’t want her to do it, and it’s for many of the reasons you stated: perfectionism, people-pleasing, high social standards, fear of disappointment, etc. all of which can lead to her feeling sad, anxious, and over thinking every tiny detail which obviously isn’t good for mental health.

    But to try and figure out how I physically and emotionally feel when I hear her say “sorry” is tricky. Do I get frustrated? Do I feel pity? Am I annoyed? Am I annoyed at her? (Obviously I’m not, but she often assumes I am)

    I guess we’re just finding it interesting to work through that childish curiosity of answering the question “…but why?” from a perspective which isn’t as often looked through.

    And thank you for the response! ❤️