I love this for you. What kind of plant is it? I’m slowly building my own balcony garden.

Spite.

I’m relatively old for a non-binary person, so I didn’t realize I’m trans until my late 20s. But I identified as a feminist starting in my early teens and majored in Women’s and Gender Studies in college. I put about as much work into deconstructing my view on gender norms as one person reasonably could. But it wasn’t until I gave myself permission to lay down the burden of trying to be a woman that I started to feel like the rest of my life was worth living.

I haven’t tried HRT or surgery, but having gender affirming clothing, hair, name and pronouns (ie. socially transitioning), and having people in my life who respect my name and pronouns, has been extremely helpful in letting me be comfortable enough to live my life.