I’m a blue person, stuck in the southeast. I’m nearly 59 years old, so I can’t transplant easily. My spouse has family roots and a house here too. (I don’t, I’ve been more mobile before I met her).
She’s not likely to sell her house either (despite being liberal) because she bought the home she grew up in; Nostalgia. I’m hoping that in 8 years when I retire, she and I will be more on the same sheet of music. Maybe she’ll be ready to downsize (though she still harbors the idea of keeping the house, renting it, and being able to will it to her daughter), and we can consider leaving.
The only game plan I can come up with is get a nice van as our “second home” and live full time on the road; Quite an expensive way to escape. Sigh…I hope she and I sync up eventually.
BG3…soon. :)