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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • Did you talk about this with your therapist? Bc you should.

    My old therapist would refer to frustration as a resource we hoarde. We dump our frustration into a little water bottle, and when we’re not using adaptive coping mechanisms, we table it. But then later something frustrating happens (like your webcam experience), and though it is (truly) a minor setback, you’re stuck with this huge reaction. You got a stop hoarding your frustrations and learn to dump that water bottle out before it overflows.

    This imagery is for me helpful because it helps me understand some disproportionate reactions I may have, and also quite clearly doesn’t shy away from negative emotion. Get angry, hell yeah. When it’s… Adaptive. This wasn’t adaptive.













  • You got two options. Both suck.

    1. Call support. Have fun. I’d rather rip out my eyeballs in this scenario because you’re not a paying customer. You will get the shit-tier service, will likely be hung up on, and reexplain the situation to 3+ individuals over the course of 4 hours and ultimately get nothing done.

    2. Resubscribe. Finish the job. The odds of your accounts db being wiped are kinda slim. Sucks because you do what you explicitly sought to avoid: pay Microsoft.






  • I think the bulk of users are running discarded junk and raspberry pis.

    That was me, I built a ~$5k rig and now some of what I’m doing is just nonsense of a typical self hoster, so the point is somewhat valid, but even those like me mostly started out with discarded junk and raspberry pis.

    Docker used to scare me until I tackled a project that required me to use it. Then I realized I learned it without knowing I’d learned it.