Being already married and stuff aside, as a straight cisgender male I would honestly have a hard time with it. Like, my parents’ neighbor is a trans woman and I’d be lying if I denied noticing her (covered) boobs when she was hanging out in the back yard. But if I’m going to have a romantic relationship with someone, there are physical traits that attract me and others that don’t… And I would need to be attracted to my partner, both with what’s typically visible in public and what isn’t.
It’s nothing personal, and I truly hope their new body (whatever that may be) works for them and they find the love they want. It’s just not what I’m after.
To use the cliche as a tl;dr, it’s not you, it’s me.
Would you feel differently about a post-op trans woman? I assume the hang-up is the penis on a woman?
Do you think a penis would be a deal-breaker even if it were feminine: soft, flaccid, more like an oversized clit than a penis? Would it change anything to know lots of trans women’s penises don’t ejaculate, but instead produce wetness like a cis woman would when aroused?
I don’t doubt the gential preference, I just sometimes think straight men think of the female penis as being like a man’s penis, and that’s not usually the case.
To be honest, I’m not entirely sure. In theory, sure: the initial question assumed initial (presumably clothed) attraction. You’ve got the body parts I enjoy between the sheets. Let’s give it a try!
But also, I’m a dumb human with dumb human hangups that shouldn’t matter, but do. Maybe this person is everything I wanted and I could never turn that down; maybe there’s a mental block I just can’t get around despite my best efforts
Being already married and stuff aside, as a straight cisgender male I would honestly have a hard time with it. Like, my parents’ neighbor is a trans woman and I’d be lying if I denied noticing her (covered) boobs when she was hanging out in the back yard. But if I’m going to have a romantic relationship with someone, there are physical traits that attract me and others that don’t… And I would need to be attracted to my partner, both with what’s typically visible in public and what isn’t.
It’s nothing personal, and I truly hope their new body (whatever that may be) works for them and they find the love they want. It’s just not what I’m after.
To use the cliche as a tl;dr, it’s not you, it’s me.
Would you feel differently about a post-op trans woman? I assume the hang-up is the penis on a woman?
Do you think a penis would be a deal-breaker even if it were feminine: soft, flaccid, more like an oversized clit than a penis? Would it change anything to know lots of trans women’s penises don’t ejaculate, but instead produce wetness like a cis woman would when aroused?
I don’t doubt the gential preference, I just sometimes think straight men think of the female penis as being like a man’s penis, and that’s not usually the case.
To be honest, I’m not entirely sure. In theory, sure: the initial question assumed initial (presumably clothed) attraction. You’ve got the body parts I enjoy between the sheets. Let’s give it a try!
But also, I’m a dumb human with dumb human hangups that shouldn’t matter, but do. Maybe this person is everything I wanted and I could never turn that down; maybe there’s a mental block I just can’t get around despite my best efforts