Whenever you do good indirect deeds for someone. Mainly because some people don’t expect or normally wouldn’t have wanted things to be done in certain ways because it could get them in more shit than they were in the beginning. But sometimes doing things for the good on their behalf is a benefit.
I just wouldn’t mention it to them because it could sometimes create an issue where you may sometimes be faulted or may get into an argument about the morals of having done such thing. So by not mentioning it, it spares you from having to deal with that. I think it also has a net benefit because it doesn’t make you look like you do good things for PR reasons.
Oh man, a few years ago, we had a military dude as conductor in our wind band. And I was always one of his favorites, I’m guessing because I have broad shoulders and a deep voice – prime military recruit material.
…except that I’m vegan. So, one day he sits next to me during lunch and asks me why I’m vegan. I do the usual dance of avoiding the topic, but he does not want to let it go. So, I tell him that I think killing animals is wrong. He walked out of that conversation like a hurt gazelle.
Like, fuck me, dude, if you’re gonna do the whole military tough guy spiel, but cannot take a kid disagreeing with you, then maybe you’re not as tough after all.