Whenever you do good indirect deeds for someone. Mainly because some people don’t expect or normally wouldn’t have wanted things to be done in certain ways because it could get them in more shit than they were in the beginning. But sometimes doing things for the good on their behalf is a benefit.
I just wouldn’t mention it to them because it could sometimes create an issue where you may sometimes be faulted or may get into an argument about the morals of having done such thing. So by not mentioning it, it spares you from having to deal with that. I think it also has a net benefit because it doesn’t make you look like you do good things for PR reasons.
At the point of first contact IRL, I avoid mentioning anything even vaguely inflammatory: that I’m an immigrant (that one is hard to hide because my pronunciation of the local language is still quite terrible), vegan, atheist, hold anarchist, marxist, and generally anti-capitalist views. If the relationship lasts longer than just a single contact, as I build up trust and goodwill I slowly start seeping out that info, usually in the order that I listed it in.
The fact that I was born in Soviet Union. Also the fact that the place I was born is now the capital of an Islamic country. Also the fact that I think that Asian cultures in some aspects are better than western ones.
IRL, that I’m left-wing and atheist, because it’s a loyally right-wing area, and because the latter thing pisses off an important minority. I also avoid anything that could be seen as “playing a card”, although in the right conditions I might bring whatever personal consideration up. The only way I’m admitting the first two is if either they did first, or I’m asked point blank.
half of the things i want to say (if I’m lucky) because my brain produces an endless torrent of meaningless overshare-y bullshit that I just have to desperately try to keep out of my painstakingly curated conveyor belt of approved remarks that will hopefully not get me in trouble and/or bore people to death
I think that you should keep a diary to write down that stuff.
My SO calls this diarrhea of the mouth. It’s quite the affliction.
Where I live.
My communist thoughts.
You can usually get by with just being anti capitalist. Most people will readily agree.
communist thoughts are for sharing
Our thoughts, comrade.
Outside of online, I dont mention that I know COBOL. I used to put it on my resume and the kind of offers I would get…where VERY bad. Or had some huge red flags.
Ah yeah, there’s various technologies that I don’t mention too loudly. For example, all things considered, I’m probably an above-average Python dev, but I never enjoyed writing it, so when I get asked about it, I always answer that I’m not too confident with it.
Which, in my defense, isn’t even really a lie. My specialty is large-scale projects, which is something where Python with its loose typing just does not give you confidence…
For me its JavaScript. But you would not be the first I’ve heard that have talked about the loose typing.
My current job is a mix of old is, python, c#, and SQL. C# is fun to me. And SQL is standard now. Python works and I use it in favor of power shell/bash scripting.
I used to put it on my resume and the kind of offers I would get…where VERY bad. Or had some huge red flags.
In what way, someone looking for people to hack old banking systems?
More likely, they have messy legacy mainframe systems and they cannot find anyone to keep them in business. Bu touching such systems is extremely dangerous.
What? I heard they were putting out good money to hire COBOL developers to maintain their old banking systems.
Yes and no. That was around 5 years ago. Now you get to deal with everyone too cheap to do the rewrite, those that will fire you for any downtime at all, or they only want in person in bum fuck nowhere.
Unless I absolutely have to for logistical reasons, I refuse to talk about me being a vegan to others.
It typically results in a debate in which I have no desire to participate. I’ve had the same conversations with people over and over again in my 9 years being vegan. I always either have to censor my opinions, or I end up upsetting someone when I say I think this thing they’re doing is morally wrong.
People rarely engage the topic with genuine curiosity, they usually just want me to assuage their cognitive dissonance and tell them “oh the way you eat animals is totally acceptable!”
Oh man, a few years ago, we had a military dude as conductor in our wind band. And I was always one of his favorites, I’m guessing because I have broad shoulders and a deep voice – prime military recruit material.
…except that I’m vegan. So, one day he sits next to me during lunch and asks me why I’m vegan. I do the usual dance of avoiding the topic, but he does not want to let it go. So, I tell him that I think killing animals is wrong. He walked out of that conversation like a hurt gazelle.
Like, fuck me, dude, if you’re gonna do the whole military tough guy spiel, but cannot take a kid disagreeing with you, then maybe you’re not as tough after all.
bUt HoW Do YoU GeT PrOtEiN!?
Im not even vegan, but just imagining the conversations for 10 seconds Im already sick of it.
Same. Not vegan but the anti-vegans online are way more obnoxious and annoying than any vegans I’ve seen.
Also not vegan but I try to limit eating animals. The next statement is usually “BuT pLaNtS aReN’t A cOmPlEtE pRoTeIn!1!1!1”
Like my entire diet consists of carrots. It’s crazy how some people don’t even look at nutrition values but believe they know what their body needs.
That argument annoys me so much. Each vegetable does cover all amino acids, they just don’t have them in the exact relations that our body needs. But if a vegetable has only 50% of one amino acid compared to the distribution that our body needs, then you can abso-fucking-lutely just eat double of that vegetable. Or as you say mix-and-match.
A typical Western diet includes far more protein than the body needs for maintaining itself either way.
People only seem to know meat and salad and nothing in between.
Dont forget fried potato
The amount of people worried about my nutrition as a vegan but who wouldn’t bat an eye at someone eating McDonald’s every day…
Uneducated dumbasses
he types with one hand while eating a ham, turkey, and brisket firehouse sub with tomato, coleslaw, and caramelized onions
Tomatoes, cabbage, and onions, that’s a lot of vegetables in one meal! Are you one of them woke f*gs?
If vegetables were sentient and bled, I’d eat more of em
That’s a lot of words to say you prefer to be an anonymous good samaritan.
I don’t mention that I had cancer because people get weird about it.
That’s a very poor comparison you made there.
My wife has a necklace of moldavite, which is apparently a type of glass, but like, from space.
ayyyy that’s my favorite rock. it’s a good’n
My negative thoughts, mostly. Even if you don’t believe in do-gooder fallacious platitudes like “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all,” the truth of the matter is it eases social instances to just not bring negativity to the table unless it’s really needed (which is usually to shut someone down who’s being an asshole, or seriously weighing pros and cons of something.)
Almost everything… except work-related stuff. I’m a very proactive communicator at work.
But my coworkers don’t know how old I am, my birthday, or how many kids I have; and my family similarly knows nothing about my coworkers. I’d tell them if they asked, but until then…
Countless topics and those change by the setting.
I am too lazy too list them.
You don’t mention to people what you don’t mention to people!
It’s like the first rule of unmentionable club.
